Daily Dose of Diversity

30 Mar

All in the Eyes

Where did you get your eyes from? Your mother or your father? He raised his camera capturing the portrait of her pale beauty and oval …

27 Mar

Fragrance Free

I have always been the recipient of hair/smell comments and unwarranted hair smelling or touching and as a black woman with “natural” hair I had …

05 Dec

Someone Like You…or Someone Like, Completely Different

Never mind, I’ll find someone like you I wish nothing but the best for you too Don’t forget me, I beg I remember you said, “Sometimes it lasts in …

20 Oct

Selfish & Mature

Him: “I am offended by you, You make me seem so selfish and narcissistic. I have had a problem with you and this for years.” Me: …

19 Oct

The Devil Might Wear Prada, but the Vampire Brings the Beer

Chapter One: Twice Bitten….Bitten By Love & Bitten By the Devil. As I walked into the store front, I was met with boxes of shoes stacked upon …

13 Oct

A Beautiful Boyfriend

My friends don’t believe me when I say, “I have single friends, they are date-able and steady guy friends….And if they wanted me? Well, I’m …

20 Sep

Crush Killer. Date Deal Breaker. Ruined Romance.

“Well, That Just Killed It” (colloquial phrase describing a ruined “moment”) “Live and let live… So together, we can grow as individuals” ~Shamime Shaw Taken from …

13 Sep

Good Things Come to Those Who Wait!

A while back I wrote (for Mixed and Happy Inc.) a small post for all the young girls out there that wonder “why” things might …

22 Aug

…What Hurts the Most…

What hurts the most Was being so close And havin’ so much to say And watchin’ you walk away And never knowin’ What could’ve been ~Rascal Flatts… What …

13 Aug

Bitter…But Not Quite…

Fresh bitter lemons yield a beautiful, delicious lemon meringue pie, enjoyed by all. Many people might ask WHY I write about ALL of my experiences? Am …

22 Jul

Beware of the Male Ego: #3 “The ManChild”

All talk and never learned to walk. “He lives on the couch of his ex-girlfriend” “It’s like my mom married another child. He works some, but she …

29 Jun

Beware of the Male Ego: #2 “An Eligible Ego?”

I love the article Eligible, Black, Male, and Hopelessly Single. For once it highlights what black men have to offer instead of highlighting what many women …

29 Jun

Beware of the Male Ego: #1 “Too Nice to Love”

You would think the male ego embraces the physiological and anthropological studies claiming, “Humans are not inherently monogamous religion and society uphold monogamy.” I follow a …

27 May

I am Not my Hair…I am as Free as my Hair.

Lady Gaga’s new song Hair from her album Born This Way: “I just wanna be myself and I want you to love Me for who I am I …

27 Apr

But…He’s Really Nice

Photo is NOT of the individual(s) described below “I am nice….I just couldn’t figure out a nice way to tell you I am not interested in …

20 Apr

Rock Stars, Vampires and Plastic Surgeons

“Purple Rain, Brazilian Butt-lifts and Diamond Skin” To anyone not from Los Angeles these words sound delusional and disconnected; to me, they are part of my …

25 Feb

Change We Can Believe in? Not really…

Why is it when a woman finally comes to terms with the way men act, the very same men go and “change?” Well, here is the …

25 Feb

Plenty O’Fish…

“Plenty of Fish dot com” My friend exclaimed with a chuckle. I replied, “What?” She restated, “Online dating…” I have been encouraged by about three friends …

23 Feb

Cultural Significance of a MAN

“He’s so cute, does he have a brother?” My friend’s sister asked. I chimed in “Yes, and after you find a brother can I have …

08 Feb

Biracial? Like, What?

Like, Huh? “Your hair, it is so….so…Well, I don’t want to say biracial because your NOT, but…your hair is amazing still!” (The words of my friend …

01 Feb

I Love You to the Moon and Back

“I love you to the moon and back” was the last thing my grandmother said to me. Thirteen years old, I will never forget, watching on …

01 Feb

Disney’s “The Princess and the Frog” Green Face the New Black Face. A critical comparison and movie review of other Disney Princesses and popular culture.

How far have we really come? Walking into see Disney’s latest feature I was excited to grasp a glimpse of my childhood. I remember the …

01 Feb

A response to the article, “Skin Deep” [September 2010, The Oprah Magazine]

Dear Oprah, Why does your magazine only touch the tip of the iceberg in Freida Pinto’s article, “Skin Deep?” Her discussion is only a glimpse into …

01 Feb

New Year. New ME.

New Year’s Resolution…. You think it’s the year of the Rabbit?? No, it’s the year of the WITCH Don’t give, unless given to first. Don’t give a sincere …

01 Feb

Crossing Cultures with Food.

“Oh, this food is AMAZING! What are you? Where are you from?” I knew this was meant as a compliment and he wanted to know my …

01 Feb

U.D.S.

Can you guess this acronym? No, it’s not a STD… It is “Ugly Duckling Syndrome” Apparently, it’s where a girl doesn’t “blossom” or “get hot,” until after high …

01 Feb

Two Dollar Ho? (Rant Con’t)

“The hook up culture”: it’s definitely something…I would love to hook up with some of my guy friends…but I know my personality doesn’t lend itself …

01 Feb

Two Dollar Ho?

The Uncle of my blog writing, “hipster,” music loving, photographer friend left two dollars on her bed after she slept with a guy at her …

01 Feb

Why don’t YOU grow some Balls…or Roses?

“Why don’t YOU grow some balls?” my man friend exclaimed, when I complained how a guy that I “liked” didn’t make a “move.” He continued, …

02 Dec

Scary Black, Sexy Black.

Has the media darkened our horizon? “What does it feel like to be overly sexed due to your appearance?” My law school friend asked about my …

02 Dec

The four “F’s”: Find ‘em, Fool ‘em, F%*k ‘em, and Forget ‘em.

My dad was reading my blog posts and we started talking. I mentioned having so many male friends, but they were not the same as …

02 Dec

What is hot? What is not?

“Oh God Shamime, how can you like him? He’s so NOT hot” was what my friend said to me when I mentioned our mutual friend …

02 Dec

Why do I have to learn from my mistakes, when I can watch YOU mess up instead?

I have countless friends who say, “I am young, its fine!” They SAY they can make mistakes now before they get older…mistakes such as getting …

02 Dec

Can a girl like a chubby Guy?

Yes. Not all women have unrealistic standards. In fact most women will give a chubby guy a chance, if he seems smart, nice and clean. We don’t need …

02 Dec

Perfection through Rejection

(This post is written with females in mind, but can go both ways.) About two summers ago my friend came over for lunch at my apartment. …

02 Dec

Can a guy like a chubby Girl?

What is the difference between a Stone Fox and an Ugly Dog? About seven Beers…. So can a guy like a chubby girl? Yea……….. Will he sleep with …

02 Dec

I am a lesbian, because I DID NOT sleep with you?

I recall my dad telling me before I went to college that men will say anything and do almost anything to sleep with you! Fortunately, I …

02 Dec

So it’s a Date…

Dating: Los Angeles vs. Sacramento…. What is Dating? Why the label? Today, I spent the evening with my friend “Julie” and her boyfriend playing some golf. Her …

02 Dec

Facebook, cell phones and email….

I delete my facebook quite often… I am a Facebook Addict. It is hard to delete! It’s been awhile since I deleted my account….so long, especially …

02 Dec

He’s into you! He’s just into sex more…

Boys, Boys, Boys. I LOVE men. Especially, shirtless nice-haired men. It is no secret…. I have heard about the phenomena, “He’s just not that into you,” so I …

02 Dec

Sorry, Forgive us, For we know not, what we do….

During my last quarter at UCLA I experienced for the first time EVER in my life, someone saying sorry to me…. Not the casual “Sorry I …

02 Dec

Doesn’t matter how good looking YOU are…it only matters how good you make HIM feel.

This post is pretty self explanatory. Once over dinner with my Cousin, the cute waiter that I found attractive didn’t notice me very much. Another waiter …

02 Dec

Good Hair. Bad Hair.

Deny it if you will…. Hair in my family has always been a “thing;” not good or bad, just something. My dad’s mother was a beautician and …

02 Dec

Nature, Art, Life, Love

As a child you couldn’t get me away from the window or keep me inside. My father, when he had free time, would take me …

02 Dec

Adoption

“Didn’t your parents want their OWN kid? Like a real one? I know I have to have my own, and if my wife can’t have …

02 Dec

Colorblind

Love is MY religion…but what do YOU see? I see sincerity, compassion; kindness…looks come last…and hair second to last… But when you read a description of a …

02 Dec

If you like her, Put a ring on it….

Beyonce puts it straight! Or does she? Times have changed. Women are staying single and marrying later and men are playing the field longer. Independence is …

02 Dec

What’s Love Got to do with it?

Tina Turner puts it best! “A Sweet Old Fashioned Notion” But what is it? Is it family? Is it friends? Both? The love that makes you realize …

02 Dec

Signs that SHE likes you:

I am a little different. So I will explain myself first. I find attractive “BAD news Bears” guys with huge egos; so usually, I don’t associate …

02 Dec

Signs that HE likes you…

He LIKES YOU, he really does!!!! But its sex related more visual and really non-committed… at FIRST. Until my sophomore year at UCLA I used to …

29 Aug

Karma’s a B!*ch…But So am I…

Karma. I try to live in a way that promotes good energies, regardless of how messed up the world can be. My goal is to make …

29 Aug

The Beginning. The situation behind the blog….(there are countless reasons) Why not give people young and old something to “think” and “talk” about that, “diversifies” their …